tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.comments2012-06-23T11:54:24.585-07:00BUT I LOVE ME MOREMS.NOVAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13402879861463485346noreply@blogger.comBlogger167125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-41974412597567539812011-04-08T05:48:45.995-07:002011-04-08T05:48:45.995-07:00Hon, if he shrugged and said "do what you wan...Hon, if he shrugged and said "do what you want" and still hasn't committed to marrying you after you hauled your behind to Chicago...you really should know the answer to this...take the job cause the man is not prioritizing you the same way you are him. This is your life and livelihood that's on the line here and your earning potential for a nest egg and financial stability and independence for yourself is priority, especially since 'the man' may not be around to be a partner to you 20 years from now.Ms.ellehttp://www.elleFACTOR.conoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-20999695127176113342011-03-23T07:11:52.445-07:002011-03-23T07:11:52.445-07:00"Be the change you want to see in the world.&..."Be the change you want to see in the world."<br /><br />It is clear that no one knows more about the negative effects of alcohol abuse more than you, with most of the key male figures in your family being over- indulgers/alcoholics. Alcoholism doesn't play favourites, so you are just as much at risk of being a victim of verbal and emotional abuse as your aunts. <br /><br />Remember what they teach you in grade school? Safety first. The good feelings you are experiencing because you like this guy are feelings you will experience many times over with many different people. Why waste your time at 17 on someone who cannot control his actions?<br /><br />Drunk, jealous calls may be "cute" now, but are really ugly later. Spare yourself and move on to the next one.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-17265756612740297802011-03-23T06:57:36.765-07:002011-03-23T06:57:36.765-07:00"Do unto others as you would have done unto y..."Do unto others as you would have done unto you."<br /><br />If you really, really loved your man, you would be working towards spicing up your love life with him, rather than opening up Pandora's Box with someone else. Ever heard of karma? If you indulge in this "fling" first, without addressing the root problem of your lack-lustre love life with your main squeeze, you are inviting karma to return the gesture in whatever way the universe sees fit. <br /><br />You've only been living together a year and a half, and already the bedroom scene is boring? That doesn't sound right. Either there are problems in your relationship that aren't being addressed, or your man is being fulfilled elsewhere in HIS own way, because let's be real...guys need sexual release FREQUENTLY. <br /><br />To answer your question: SEXTING is cheating. Sharing intimacies whether electronic or in the flesh with someone other than your partner is cheating. <br /><br />I am by no means the moral police, so as long as you understand the consequences, you need to choose wisely.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-68517685244807688282011-03-23T06:46:12.357-07:002011-03-23T06:46:12.357-07:00Hmmm.....
I can't tell you what you are missi...Hmmm.....<br /><br />I can't tell you what you are missing from your life, but based on the bones you tossed out (re: clothes, job, and weight) I am inclined to think there might be slight esteem issues which on a deeper level may be connected to a need to feel loved. Luckily, positioning yourself to "attract" the things you want into your life is pretty easy. If you want to lose a few pounds, don't spend anymore time thinking about it....ACTION IT! If you want to get a better job...ACTION IT! Improve your skill set and apply. When you start earning more money, then you can get the clothes you want. <br /><br />The best way to figure out what you want, is to deal with the "knowns" first, so the path is more clear towards the "unknowns". <br /><br />Just as you cannot win the lottery unless you buy a ticket (action), you won't fill the missing pieces in your life if you don't action them. <br /><br />Take care.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-60230790627236426152011-03-06T19:40:03.563-08:002011-03-06T19:40:03.563-08:00Spirituality is such a broad term that can mean so...Spirituality is such a broad term that can mean so many different things. Some believe it is religiously driven, but others believe it describes the relationship you have with yourself. <br /><br />I believe spirituality is having a connection with your conscience being and/or the deeper meanings that govern your life. <br /><br />Ahhhh, the voice in the head that won't shut up. Yep, I know that voice. You're trying to meditate (focused thinking) and that silly voice keeps interrupting your attempts at solitude. <br /><br />Sometimes, an actual physical journey to a place of solitude may help, like a trip to the lake/ocean, or a park. Spiritual reading can be a good segue into discovering your spiritual self also. <br /><br />How do you know when it's right for you? When it feels right!!! Just like being in love, you don't know until you get there.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-63060726889613112012011-03-06T19:18:23.735-08:002011-03-06T19:18:23.735-08:00I have to say...when I finished reading your post,...I have to say...when I finished reading your post, I chuckled a little. Not because I thought what you asked was funny, but because I am in my 30's, and just last night on my own life commentary website, I wrote an article primarily based on the truths about cheating, and a sad truth is - cheating is a fact of life that we will encounter many times in our lives both as the cheater and the cheated on. <br /><br />That said, at 17 and dating someone for 2 months - you are under no obligation to have feelings for only 1 person. What transpired between you and your prior flame may have been a result of unresolved feelings about your break-up. I'm not encouraging you to be unfaithful to your new boyfriend, BUT you have plenty time to be loyal "till death do you part" when you are older and get married. Imagine, you'll have to be with the same guy for like 40 years! So now, while you are young and not tied down to anybody, I would hardly call what you did a serious indiscretion. <br /><br />If you feel like you cannot live with yourself unless you confess to your boyfriend, don't be afraid to tell him what happened. Should you guys last as a couple beyond a year, he will be grateful in your strength in character about being honest with him early on, and may actually trust you more in the long run. <br /><br />Ever heard of the expression, "what they don't know won't hurt them"? If you are absolutely sure that it was a one-time slip-up, AND your old flame has a new life to tend to with an upcoming baby, then why rock the boat worrying? <br /><br />My advice is: Don't worry too much about it, but don't let it become a habit. Next time you feel yourself being lured in by someone <br />other than your boyfriend, remove yourself from the situation or ask yourself if you're really ready to be in an exclusive relationship. <br /><br />Btw...here's the link to the article I wrote. This is the advice I'll give you in 20 or so years. <br /><br />Life Truths - Part One by Darling Nicky http://www.darlingnicky999.com/2011/03/life-truths-part-one.htmlDarling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-25976286084891518902011-03-06T18:54:26.601-08:002011-03-06T18:54:26.601-08:00That you are in fighting mode well beyond those ea...That you are in fighting mode well beyond those early years of elementary school lends itself to the idea that it is more out of habit, and that you don't know any other way to be except for that aggressive, fighter chick. Sounds like you may benefit from an anger management course that will help to teach you what your triggers are, and teach you some different coping mechanisms. <br /><br />In the meantime, you need to do some things that:<br />A) help channel your aggression differently like take up a hobby that allows you to express yourself and expend that energy like training for a marathon, blogging your feelings out, or a humanitarian cause that requires physical labour like Habitat for Humanity and, <br />B) help you connect to your more feminine qualities. Women who look and feel "womanly" tend not to want to get all disheveled from fighting. Watch some chick flicks, like Beaches and Terms of Endearment and Eat, Pray, Love. <br /><br />People that have such a high propensity for anger, clearly have a high propensity for emotion in general which means their IS a way to re-wire your reactions. <br /><br />While I'm worried that you could get seriously hurt (and hurt more people), I am also concerned about you going to jail for assault. <br /><br />Connect with a counselor in your city. Please.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-86843169810787242142011-02-27T08:40:29.866-08:002011-02-27T08:40:29.866-08:00I am not an expert or psychologist by any means, b...I am not an expert or psychologist by any means, but I do have a personal understanding to some degree. Sometimes causing yourself physical pain (like cutting), mutes the emotional pain, the dark, unpleasant feeling that lurks below. The one responsible for people withrawing or turning to substance abuse. Why do they not move on? Why can they not just change their mind? Well perhaps it's because from a very young age, there has been an imprint in their mind that tells them, " you just need to survive". The feeling of not being safe in your own home, or anywhere for that matter, seems to put people in a perpetual state of "survival". Constantly just trying to keep the pain at bay intead of confronting it.<br /><br />For these people, speaking to professionals (psychologists) can be very challenging. There is lack of trust, as well as no "safety".<br /><br />I think you are at an advantage being her cousin, she already know's you. Through re-connecting and establishing a relationship with her, you are already helping. Love her, and let her know as often as you can that she is loved unconditionally. Saying it is important, it will make it more real for her, safer if you will. Just knowing that there is one person, who will love her no matter what, is sometimes what can enable someone to have the courage to face pain. Don't be afaid to say to much, often we don't say enough for fear of their reaction. Their actions are their own, but the perspective by which they act upon, CAN be influenced by you.<br /><br />I share this with you because I used to be in your cousin's position long ago. What saved my life was that one person...my Aunt. So whether it's a cousin, an Aunt or a friend, just knowing there's someone that truly loves you...makes you want to stay alive!<br /><br />I wish you and your cousin love, courage and strength.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-87120909310037546112011-02-21T11:07:37.812-08:002011-02-21T11:07:37.812-08:00@anonymous really? did you read the post? what par...@anonymous really? did you read the post? what part exactly should i, ahem, 'eff'? Vanessa has an incredible story and has an accomplished resume and Daina did an excellent job of highlighting that. <br /><br />We don't get into people's personal hiccups here - if i did, this section would be empty and frankly so would the site. I'm glad you took the time to read the post, and even the time to comment, but its all LOVE here. <br /><br />if you have nothing nice to say....<br /><br /><br /><br />NovaMS.NOVAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13402879861463485346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-66835191339529163502011-02-18T23:02:56.324-08:002011-02-18T23:02:56.324-08:00Bitch is you crazy? Fuck vanessa williamsBitch is you crazy? Fuck vanessa williamsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-11449550473260189262011-02-15T07:51:58.674-08:002011-02-15T07:51:58.674-08:00*looks at calendar* Yep, as I thought, it's 20...*looks at calendar* Yep, as I thought, it's 2011!! <br /><br />It appears as though the only reason you gave for not going out and seeking employment for yourself is that your husband is traditional. Traditional as in caveman? Times are tough right now, and this is not a foreign concept to your household as your husband's lay off was probably as a result of financial cutbacks at his company. But, how does that become your father's burden to carry? Certainly if your dad is willing to help then consider yourself extremely lucky, but he did not pay into his pension all his working years so he could up and spend it on you and your husband in his golden years. <br /><br />Eating out, new clothes, and going to the movies are all LUXURIES, and I certainly hope that's not where your Dad's contributions are going. You need to sit your husband down, and agree that "traditional values" make no sense in a modern world. If the compromise is that you can work, but must stay at home, there are an endless list of customer service or administrative type jobs that you can do from home. Even just 4 hours a day stuffing envelopes will being in extra money to lessen the burden on both your husband and your father. <br /><br />You are right about not having a leg to stand on when it comes to critiquing your father's drinking habits and don't you want to be in a position where you can help him address that? <br /><br />You make no mention of having children with your husband, so why on Earth do you need to stay home? We live in a new era where everybody in the home should be pulling their own weight. <br /><br />To answer the question "Where do I draw the line when it comes to being a daddy's girl?"...the answer is, when you got married.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-73567567057902591302011-02-14T16:16:10.700-08:002011-02-14T16:16:10.700-08:00Love this Nova! Keep inspiring!Love this Nova! Keep inspiring!Cherinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-1377941632538244112011-02-09T13:25:07.625-08:002011-02-09T13:25:07.625-08:00I agree, its hard to try and make it today and hav...I agree, its hard to try and make it today and have to worry about these losers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-85609065826280188462011-02-08T06:36:48.245-08:002011-02-08T06:36:48.245-08:00First of all, congratulations on reconnecting with...First of all, congratulations on reconnecting with your cousin. Family is very important, and clearly your reconnection couldn't have come at a more poignant time.<br /><br />Cutting (from what I understand and I am NOT a psychologist or expert on the subject) has something to do with the transfer of emotional pain into physical pain. It is also linked to guilt and self-loathing. And like addictions and dependencies, it is a real problem that needs professional help. <br /><br />In addition to the physical scars she is leaving on her body, the cutting will invite judgment from people who see the scars which will in turn add another dimension of emotional burden that will probably make her cut some more. I know a few people who used to do this, and it is a challenging problem to address. <br /><br />Perhaps that you are newly reunited with your cousin could work to your advantage in addressing the issue. Maybe other family members have been afraid to broach the subject, or have tried and failed. There are a number of HELP lines across the country that you can call to get advice from a professional on how you can go about opening the discussion with her. If you are armed with the right tools, then you may be successful in getting her the help she needs. <br /><br />In the meantime, I would suggest inviting her to go to the gym with you. Sometimes, people just need a physical way of releasing their anxieties, and some good thrusts into a punching bag might be a more constructive way to transfer that pent up negative energy.<br /><br />I really wish you and your cousin the best.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-1601964148593753412011-02-08T06:25:16.205-08:002011-02-08T06:25:16.205-08:00Women are born nuturers. We come eqipped with thi...Women are born nuturers. We come eqipped with things like compassion, maternal instinct, heck..we even got stuck with the womb because our Creator didn't think that men had what it took to look after a fetus for 9 months. So, when crisis strikes the people we love, women come swooping in with this "Save The Day"/"Everything's Gonna Be Alright" attitude and start sharing the burden, then ultimately carrying the burden because that is just what we do. <br /><br />Truthfully, it is very possible that there are emotional/psychological reasons that the boyfriend remains unemployed 6 months later. He may have a crushed ego if he had been with the company a long time, or may be reluctant to accept jobs that are lower in pay or position than before. <br /><br />Regardless, your friend needs to have a frank and constructive conversation with her boyfriend. If he continues to burden her with his financial responsibilities, she may jeopardize her own financial stability and independence. Then they would both be up a creek with no paddle. <br /><br />Does the boyfriend have parents that he can lean on? Surely he has friends that he could turn to as well? What about Unemployment Benefits or Social Assistance. People who work pay taxes and are entitled to benefit from social programs when life happens. <br /><br />Your friend is going to get stuck on a hamster wheel (well, she is already it seems). Gently advise her on what you are seeing from your point-of-view, and leave it in her court.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-57629251083669014332011-02-06T12:23:13.364-08:002011-02-06T12:23:13.364-08:00Yes, money and family can be a very touchy subject...Yes, money and family can be a very touchy subject. Often times because we are never fortunate enough to experiencing the shoe being on the other foot, and knowing if the other person would be as generous with you, as you have been with them.<br /><br />I think this is pretty simple. Decide which family members you wish to support (by that I mean, make their lives a little bit easier...NOT by paying for luxuries that they don't need). <br /><br />For example: <br />You may have a cousin who's a single mom and is trying to go back to school. Help her with her grocery bill by buying her Gift Cards to her favorite supermarket. She gets a burden lifted, while you can feel comfortable knowing where the money is going. <br /><br />You may have an uncle who works very hard, but certainly cannot enjoy the lifestyle you are leading because maybe he's a baker and they don't make Producer's salaries. Resolve to give him a monthly allowance of some sort so that he can treat himself to something special once a month, but how he chooses to do so is completely up to him. If he wants something that costs $1,000 and you give him $200/month...then he needs to save up for 5 months.<br /><br />You are NOT anyone's bank account. Your talent and skill earned you that 6-figure salary, and at 19, you may want to have a family of your own one day, and you are going to want to make sure that you are in a position to put your future spouse/kids ahead of any extended family. <br /><br />Position yourself now, or the headache will be even greater down the road. AND at 19, you shouldn't have huge expenses, so put as much as you possibly can into a 401K or some type of secure savings plan. Money seems right at 19, but make sure YOU can benefit from your good fortune at 65.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-65960695461054367322011-02-06T12:08:31.586-08:002011-02-06T12:08:31.586-08:00...and overcoming adversity and life challenges is......and overcoming adversity and life challenges is a bad thing because......Sorry, you lost me. <br /><br />What I mean is, of course the people around you are going to regard you differently with an "Oh, you think you're better than me" attitude, because you are indeed better than where you were 6 months ago, right? And you feel better about yourself, and you feel proud about your job and you feel HAPPY about your life! So whether or not you are running around bragging to these people (which I am sure you are not), the joy they see in your eyes is something foreign to them. Foreign coming from you, and foreign because they aren't feeling it themselves. <br /><br />Girlfriend, let me tell you something. These "haters" around you are equipped with the same tools you had to make the changes in your life that they now see. The fact that they are not following your example and initiating changes in their lives is their choosing. NO ONE should begrudge you your accomplishments. Do you think Olympic marathon runners slow down towards the end because they are worried that their friends might begrudge them if they win? <br /><br />If your inner circle can't be happy for you because you made some positive changes in your life, then they were NEVER your friends to begin with.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-55279317695129237842011-02-02T13:32:29.084-08:002011-02-02T13:32:29.084-08:00@Veronica your kind words are appreciated. i'm...@Veronica your kind words are appreciated. i'm merely the messenger! when i find something that makes me sit a little straighter, it should be passed on and on and on. thanks for reading!<br /><br />@jae don't kill me with DebAMski! sounds like a new dance!MS.NOVAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13402879861463485346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-11348778595824634632011-02-02T07:19:18.426-08:002011-02-02T07:19:18.426-08:00Yes now let's rip the heads off of barbies and...Yes now let's rip the heads off of barbies and stomp the mid sections of all the kens in our way! It's winning season!! <br />Thanks for the inspiration!!<br />(btw my word verification was debamski) lol hehehehjae blazehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01883017363837699639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-45054413319582066822011-02-02T06:59:51.127-08:002011-02-02T06:59:51.127-08:00Nova, "But I Love Me More" Inspiring. It...Nova, "But I Love Me More" Inspiring. It made me lift my head up and smile. Thanks for the inspiration for success. -Veronica.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02351266061045953036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-66396778493942635712011-01-27T17:49:16.688-08:002011-01-27T17:49:16.688-08:00Well, the good news is you lived to see your 2nd y...Well, the good news is you lived to see your 2nd year in college. Reckless behaviour like that could have landed you a lot worse than pregnant. The bad news is, it does take a little while (and a lot of effort) to change people's perception of you. <br /><br />Public opinion is usually lags behind actual change, so even though you may have been conducting yourself in a more respectable manner for some time now, it could take several months for your reputation to adjust accordingly. <br /><br />The funny thing about public scrutiny is that it is very fickle. So as soon as some other wayward female gives the town something to talk about, who you were and how you behaved in 1st year will be relatively uninteresting to anyone. <br /><br />You should be thankful that you came to your own self-awareness, live a lifestyle that allows you to look proudly in the mirror everyday and say, "I love me", and then pay the lesson forward. Maybe there is an opportunity to host a support group or write a blog that targets young girls who fall into that trap of "First Year Tramp". <br /><br />Anyway, congratulations on the REST of your beautiful life!Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-84564146351267287472011-01-27T01:41:55.360-08:002011-01-27T01:41:55.360-08:00I hope that soon after you realized this guy was s...I hope that soon after you realized this guy was stalking your Facebook page that you either blocked him or at the very least adjusted your privacy settings so that he can see nothing more than the most basic information. <br /><br />I agree with what Kisha said about ensuring your have whatever self-defense tools are legal where you live. Being in your parking garage regardless of whether or not he lives close by or not is not something that the police can intervene in unless he is/has threatened you or physically harmed you. But certainly keep a very detailed journal documenting every incident that has you feeling uneasy. <br /><br />I believe in direct communication. Being rude does not necessarily equate to you having said to him point blank, "Your actions make me uncomfortable. If you continue to infringe on my personal space, I will report you to the police." I suggest discreetly pressing record on your cell phone so that you have indisputable proof that you made it clear to this guy to leave you alone. <br /><br />You are NOT being paranoid. The Lord gave us women's intuition for a reason. Stalking is not something you want to take lightly. If you were watching yourself in 3rd person, you would probably not have let this continue for two months. <br /><br />Please take care of yourself. Please.Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-86011943667884861422011-01-27T01:24:53.505-08:002011-01-27T01:24:53.505-08:00I noticed you did not indicate whether you let oth...I noticed you did not indicate whether you let others "treat" you. Maybe the reason you feel guilty treating yourself to small luxuries or pamperings is because somewhere in your mind, you feel it is something that should come from others. <br /><br />Sometimes, when we don't get the same love and respect from others as we feel we give out, sub-consciously you may have been conditioned to believe that you aren't worthy of those things. Then the thought of let's say...treating yourself to a day at the spa and maybe a fancy dinner for one seems outrageous. <br /><br />Next time you catch yourself going out of your way for somebody else to make sure their needs are met, why don't you try vocalizing yours? I always remind myself that not everyone is a mind reader, so how can I be upset when my needs don't get met unless I've declared them. <br /><br />Maybe once you start to get some return on your investment (which in your case seems to be time and effort), maybe you'll be more comfortable providing those things to yourself. <br /><br />.....and on that note, I'm off to the spa!!!!Darling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-80428147209695948852011-01-25T14:53:32.393-08:002011-01-25T14:53:32.393-08:00First things first. Open up your Netflix and sele...First things first. Open up your Netflix and select "Eat, Pray, Love" starring Julia Roberts based on the true story of writer/journalist Elizabeth Gilbert. You have basically described the set-up for the plot of the bestselling book by the same name. <br /><br />If taking off to Italy, India and Indonesia are simply not in the cards for you, then consider the following:<br /><br />1) Children hurt more when the love is gone.<br /><br />Parents think that they are the pinnacle of martyrdom when they stay in broken relationships for the sake of the kids....because afterall, the fate of rotating weekends between two parents whose happiness is found once separated is vehemently worse than living in a home wrought with bickering, emptiness and bitterness. Simply put, give your parenting the benefit of the doubt that you are raising children strong enough and mature enough to understand that Mommy can't be of any good to anybody, if she is not good within herself. <br /><br />2) One woman's trash is another woman's treasure.<br /><br />You haven't indicated whether your husband shares your restlessness, but regardless, he sounds like a stand-up guy that deserves to be with someone that loves him and WANTS to be with him. Hopefully he's not oblivious to your feelings, but if he's still engaged in this marriage, and you are not, then out of mere respect for his feelings you cannot continue to bide (his) time.<br /><br />3) The grass isn't always greener on the other side. <br /><br />Before doing anything, you need to really think your options through. If at 30 you are feeling as if you haven't accomplished anything for yourself, then are you in a position to support yourself and two kids on your own? That is of course if you plan on being the custodial parent. Unless you absolutely DO NOT love your husband anymore whatsoever, then there is no aspect of "finding yourself" or realizing your personal goals that can't be accomplished inside of a marital relationship. That's why people get married, to have a "partner". <br /><br />Here's a link that may help you organize your thoughts a little. http://www.therelationshipgym.com/should-I-stay/should-you-stay-or-should-you-go.htmDarling Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824097433442279773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6223226427025527736.post-17217155210201520202011-01-20T22:01:00.281-08:002011-01-20T22:01:00.281-08:00@darling nicky
can i just say, how PERFECT you ar...@darling nicky<br /><br />can i just say, how PERFECT you are for Q&A's?!<br /><br />Nicki strikes again! you are the GIRLFRIEND. how much closerdoyouwanttobe? this neeeed for validation comes from somewhere and i have a sinking feeling that if he was successful or not, you might have the tendency to be, how do we say, clingy?<br /><br />please don't be offended when i say that. to want to morph into another person only highlights our lack of direction for our own lives. if your adult life has been back to back relationships with few breaks in between - check yourself. really. who are you? what did you love to do before boys came along? its not your partners job to hold you together and keep you entertained, feeling secure and pet your hair and make it all better. only you can do that. myself, nicky, you and the boyfriend, can all agree to that. <br /><br /><br />novaMS.NOVAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13402879861463485346noreply@blogger.com