HE'S GREAT BUT...
5:12 PM Posted by MS.NOVA
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i was told that the first man we love is our dad and we either go for guys who are just like him or the opposite. is that true? i ask because i'm dating this guy (4 months now) and he's wonderful, he's there for me and all that god stuff, BUT,he likes his beer and when he drinks, he DRINKS. Sometimes I'll get a drunk dial which is cute, but other times he will call and be all 'where are you? i heard you were talking to so and so, i'm coming over." Screaming and not making a lot of sense.
I like him, but it makes me kinda nervous because my brothers drink, my dad drinks, and my uncles and grandfathers drink too. i've seen them fight with my aunties and their girlfriends and its so much drama. i like him, but i don't want all that, i'm only 17.
How can I tell him his drinking makes me nervous?
Will I always go for guys like this?
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March 23, 2011 at 7:11 AM
"Be the change you want to see in the world."
It is clear that no one knows more about the negative effects of alcohol abuse more than you, with most of the key male figures in your family being over- indulgers/alcoholics. Alcoholism doesn't play favourites, so you are just as much at risk of being a victim of verbal and emotional abuse as your aunts.
Remember what they teach you in grade school? Safety first. The good feelings you are experiencing because you like this guy are feelings you will experience many times over with many different people. Why waste your time at 17 on someone who cannot control his actions?
Drunk, jealous calls may be "cute" now, but are really ugly later. Spare yourself and move on to the next one.