Q&A- IS MY BFF AN ALCOHOLIC?
4:27 PM Posted by MS.NOVA
*via twitter*
My BFF and I are in our second year of college and obviously we love to party!!
I'm all for having a good time, but lately my BFF has been worrying me. Before school let out, she was getting beyond wasted, to the point of embarrassment, at year end parties.
Like being carried out, peeing pants, kicked out, puking, picking fights, just causing a scene.
I have my girls back, but I'm not on babysitting duty either!
She's taken off with guys for hours and not remembered anything that happened. Scary!!
Now that school is done, she's drinking all day everyday and it seems there is no limit. She'll party with anyone who has booze, even people she doesn't like or know well. I'm scared something is going to happen to her. I love her and she's my girl, but her rep as "the loud drunk" is effecting mine.
Is this a college girl party phase?
Or does she have the signs of being an alcoholic?
What do I say to her?
As always, these are REAL questions, so speak up and help these ladies out!
Comments below!
June 8, 2010 at 12:27 AM
True friends are honest with each other, and should never fear putting each other in check. There are times when people do not realize the damage they're doing to themselves, and to the people around them that actually care. She could be living her life, and drinking all the time, not even realizing that it effects you. We are not mind readers, so it's important that we let our good friends know what we think, especially if we're worried for them. If this is someone close to you approach it gently, but be honest and tell her how you feel. You never know, she may wake up and realize she's throwing her life away by being drunk and missing out. Sometimes we all need a reality check, life can get hectic, and that's why it's so important to have good people in our lives. As long as you let her know what you're feeling is coming from a good place, and not a place of judgment, I'm sure it will only help the situation.
Best of luck, and take care!
Rose
June 8, 2010 at 12:16 PM
@ Rose
I couldn't have said it better myself.
"approach it gently, but be honest and tell her how you feel." this isn't a judgement zone. but most of all, listen.
An interesting principle that i've learned lately, is that the people we choose to be around us are really there to show us something about us. get that?
you could be friends with anyone, but its her. she could be going through anything - but its this. regardless of the drama, take stock in what is happening in the lives of those around you and what you can learn from it. in this instance, maybe a family member had a problem that you never spoke out about, or you went through an addition issue yourself at one time. i always find that writing down my feelings, prior to a confrontation, really helps. this way, you can really get your points across minus the frustration, disappointment or anger you might be feeling. Also use this time to think about what YOU want. Other then a raging kegger, what other interests to you have?
i went through a similar situation. thanks for reminding me and of course, i'll write about it in Live to Tell.
the good people at: Al-Anon and Alateen are better equipped then i am for guidance.
www.al-anon.alateen.org
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nova