Q&A-HE'S EMOTIONLESS & I LOVE HIM
1:20 AM Posted by MS.NOVA
*via twitter*
I'm in love with a robot.
A great on paper, successful, sexy, smart, void of human emotion type robot.
Nice but not thoughtful, he feels that my affection needs to be purchased, when a surprise with flowers or a sweet note would mean so much!
I don't feel that his lifestyle is conducive to the committed relationship that he says he wants (we are long distance - Toronto to NYC). I stay home and provide his emotional support while he slips off to "guy weekends" in Vegas or the Caribbean. I hear myself asking
"what am I doing in this relationship?"
Should i push him to stay single or enjoy this while it lasts?
I love him but I don't know where the finish line is in all of this!
Ladies, HELP!
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April 29, 2010 at 1:58 PM
ok...
long distance can be tough, but the benefit is that you are able to really work those communication muscles. but when that breaks down...oy. it might be the beginning of the end!
a few things to think about. 1-what do YOU want? out of this relationship, in a partner, long, short term. really think about it and be clear. writing it down helps. (again "when u aren't sure what you DO want, know what you DONT want.)
2-everyone communicates differently, especially when it comes to love. if you were raised in a home where your parents were huggy, kissey, affectionate and full of i love yous, then you'll probablly seek someone who responds well to the same. but not everyone had that type of attention at home. you might just be on a different wavelength - take the time to talk to him about what he wants (tho he may dred this convo).
make sure you're putting yourself first. sometimes good people arent good together, and thats OK. either way, i really hope you find what youre looking for!
: )
Nova