Q&A- DO I LEAVE HIM AFTER HE HELPED ME?
4:47 PM Posted by MS.NOVA
I'm 18 and my mom kicked me out. I have to live with my boyfriend who WAS great until I had to move in. He gets all crazy jealous and possessive, telling me I can't work and to ignore my friends because they are hoes - totally not true! He yells for no reason and screams at me for stuff that's not my fault. I sit around all day, doing nothing because he won't let me, and I think he likes another girl at his work.
My girl cousins said I can stay with them. I'd feel safer there and they would get me a job, but I don't know them very well and I feel bad leaving my man after he helped me out when my mom bailed.
Do I stay with the guy I think I love and make it work?
If not, how do I leave?
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June 23, 2010 at 1:09 PM
Honestly,if he really cared about you, he would honor your decision to whatever you want (your friends, a job, etc). You are an adult now so the decisions now shape your whole life...Now to answer your question...Yes you can leave him to go live at your cousins' house. You don't owe him anything...thank him for the good gesture (if you haven't already)s but you need to escape before things get worse. It sounds like he is only steps from getting physical and no one deserves that. GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU HAVE THE CHANCE. I think it is best that you even break up with him too. Jealousy and over possession are signs of real immaturity and attention. ...No matter how cool/handsome/caring he is, I can tell you from experience, you don't want that in your life. In any case, stay positive and stay beautiful. <3
June 28, 2010 at 6:02 PM
@anonymous
well said!
to the reader who posed the question, i discussed this on my UStream channel last week, and lots of people had a lot to say.
ustream.com (search: but i love me more)
be safe and smart and know that you have options.
: )
nova