DO I HAVE A STALKER?
10:31 PM Posted by MS.NOVA
Am I being paranoid or should I seriously be worried? You tell me. Here is the deal - my friends boyfriends friend is getting creepy. I mean, I don't know him that well, we hung out as a group a few times and I knew he was into me but I wasn't feeling him like that. Anyway, now this guy is all over my Facebook, commenting on EVERY picture at like 3 or 4 in the morning, like inappropriate stuff for someone i don't know very well.
I work in the mall and he just 'happens' to be in the area when I finish my shift and twice now, he's scared the hell out of me cause he's in the parking garage at my apartment building and i KNOW he doesn't live near there or know anyone in my little building. It's been like this for almost two months, I tried to be rude but he seemed to come on stronger after I did that. His boy dismisses me and says I'm a bitch and should just hook up with him. uh no.
I'm scared that if he wanted to, he could get me alone and hurt me.
Where does all this end? Do I have a stalker?
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December 1, 2010 at 9:25 AM
If I were you, I would file a police report for each incident so that there is a record of what is going on. I would also carry mace and if legal where you reside, a stun gun. That way, you can defend yourself if he goes to far. I hope that you are changing up your routine consistently so that your schedule and route can NOT be tracked. Wishing you the best and don't let fear win. You can do this!
Kisha
January 27, 2011 at 1:41 AM
I hope that soon after you realized this guy was stalking your Facebook page that you either blocked him or at the very least adjusted your privacy settings so that he can see nothing more than the most basic information.
I agree with what Kisha said about ensuring your have whatever self-defense tools are legal where you live. Being in your parking garage regardless of whether or not he lives close by or not is not something that the police can intervene in unless he is/has threatened you or physically harmed you. But certainly keep a very detailed journal documenting every incident that has you feeling uneasy.
I believe in direct communication. Being rude does not necessarily equate to you having said to him point blank, "Your actions make me uncomfortable. If you continue to infringe on my personal space, I will report you to the police." I suggest discreetly pressing record on your cell phone so that you have indisputable proof that you made it clear to this guy to leave you alone.
You are NOT being paranoid. The Lord gave us women's intuition for a reason. Stalking is not something you want to take lightly. If you were watching yourself in 3rd person, you would probably not have let this continue for two months.
Please take care of yourself. Please.