FAIL AT SCHOOL = FAIL AT LIFE?
10:21 PM Posted by MS.NOVA
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It's my first year of college and while my social life is thriving, I'm totally failing in most of my classes. I don't know if its my workload, teachers, if I'm tired or if what I'm studying (criminal law) is what I want to do for the next 10 years of my life. Right now I'm just cruising, but soon I'm going to have to explain this to my parents and they will be piiiiiiissed - adding to my stress. My mom says I'm just being lazy and need to apply myself, but I ain't tryna hear that.
If I fail at school will I fail in my life? How can I get it together?
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December 1, 2010 at 2:13 PM
Not a total failure and failing in school never means failing in life unless you allow it to adopt that meaning. Judging the fact that you've successfully completed high school and entered college, you are focused and determined enough to make decisions ensuring you a brighter future. The first year in college is always a time of challenges as you discover who you are socially, your interests, and how you can use both to be your best you. The challenges arise also as you learn how to manage your time and prioritize all the demands in your life. No one wants to fail and often failure more than anything can give you an idea of your interests and your abilities. Just because you failed doesn't mean your a failure, it means maybe channel your energy in another direction. If your honest with yourself you can judge if whether or not your simply not applying yourself as much as you can as opposed to as much as you want. I've had professors as well as personally experiencing a failing grades and you only discover your strengths and weakness'. The purpose of higher education is not to get a favorable mark on a paper but to make sure your gaining knowledge and use it to your advantage in this world. Give yourself some time, your only a freshman and you have a few more semesters to finally declare and understand your true passion and most beneficial major. Ask your parents to kindly be patient but you make sure you buckle down as best you can and take advantage of the opportunity to be in higher learning. Some would literally die for an opportunity!!!
December 6, 2010 at 3:47 PM
*insert dramatic eye roll here*
The first sentence just threw me off. This person's social life is thriving but their failing at school? Call me a hardass, but maybe they should try to find a happy medium...spend more time with the books and less time with the friends.
While Soul Sistah is right, post secondary education is about knowledge and not about a number, the number is what determines whether you deserve that spot in the first place. They beat somebody out for that spot...they should earn their stay. Once their academic life is over, the real world will step in. Most employers will not wait for an employee to figure it out...