ADVICE- HOW TO NEVER FIND YOUR PASSION.
12:07 PM Posted by MS.NOVA
Passion -to suffer or endure.
How many of us know what our passion is? What makes you jump out of bed in the morning? Is there a job out there that you could do all day for free? After a hike this morning, my friend and I were talking about "doing what you love and the money will come." But what do you love? And will it make money? I love to swim, but I doubt there is cash in my doggie paddles.
The moment, I mean the MOMENT I decided to leave my familiar job in the music industry to pursue writing, doors began to fly open with opportunities. But I had to stop tolerating FEAR in my life in order to get here. I was in survival mode and not living.
My biggest regret in life is working my ass off in my twenties instead of travelling the world and enjoying them. I was scraping by scraping plates to supplement my income. I resented the job and though I met hundreds of people every week, they never saw me at my best. They never met this Nova. They met tired, burnout, make-up-your-frikkin-mind-and-order Nova.
We often hear the phrase, "life is short" but that is only in hindsight. When you're in it, life is LONG. Too long to be slogging through the day, never knowing your real potential. How will you ever know how fast you are if you never go ALL OUT?
When you live an unconventional life, you grow much faster
than someone who’s looking for security, comfort and convenience.
In these economic times, please, handle your business and get the bills paid. But make the time to pursue your passions. Volunteering, take a class, try something new! What did you love to do as a kid? When was the last time you did it and why did you stop? Life is long. Find that passion you forgot about.
The good people at Dumb Little Man have compiled a list of how to NEVER find your passion. Take a look and check your excuses the next time you sell yourself short of the life you COULD have lived.
~ nova
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Overwhelm
If you really want to stay stuck—let overwhelm take control. When you’re looking for your passion, it’ll feel like you have an unlimited amount of options, but when you really prune them down and are honest with yourself, you’ll see that you’re left with just a handful.
It’s easy to look at everything you’re interested in and count them as options, but when you listen to your heart, you’ll see what is true and what is not.
We’ve been brought up to believe a lot of things that are false. Observe what beliefs are running your life and ask yourself if they are beneficial for where you want to go.
Fear
When you’re about to dive into something new, you will be afraid, and your mind will try to stop you. Anything unpleasant should be avoided. That’s what we automatically believe, right?
You will often sabotage yourself because of underlying fears. Many have told me that they cannot decide what their passion is. They want me to tell them what to do.
Realize that choosing a passion and running with it isn’t going to define your life, it is just the beginning. If you don’t take action, you won’t get anywhere. Focus on getting started instead of being perfect.
Missing Out
When you have a lot of options in front of you, the fear of missing out is always present. When I started, I knew my passions were self-improvement, natural health and financial freedom.
While I was afraid of missing out, I also knew that if I didn’t pick one, I’d miss the train. You can either pick one, or miss out on them all. It is up to you.
The feeling of missing out and wanting to do everything at once is an illusion. You can’t do them all, and even if you tried, you’d probably fail horribly. Again, this is just the beginning of your journey, so pick one passion and go.
Time
When I asked my readers what their biggest obstacles were when trying to find their passion, time frequently made the top three.
In the end, it’s not that you don’t have enough time; it’s that you fail to prioritize. If you’re watching TV, watching the news and doing stuff that doesn’t need to be done, you don’t really want to go after your passion.
If you really wanted to find your passion, you’d make time. So what if you work all day and have a family? There are people who’ve been in much worse situations and made it work. Why not you?
Excuses <--SUPER IMPORTANT!!
Excuses are irrelevant, because they are always manufactured by your mind. If you want to live the life you’ve always lived, go ahead and accept your excuses.
But if you’re ready for something else, you have to throw your excuses out the window. It doesn’t matter what kind of excuses you have, because they can always be overcome.
It’s easy for us to think that our problems are unique, but they aren’t. It all comes down to how badly you want this.
Being Good Enough
Ever since we were young we’ve been taught that we aren’t good enough. Teachers have highlighted our mistakes with red pens and parents have wished we would’ve been better.
It’s easy to assume that you don’t have any value, but you do. You are here for a purpose. You have something to offer and there are people out there waiting for you to reclaim your true power.
If you never want to find your passion, go ahead and accept your own excuses, avoid fear and seek comfort.
If, on the other hand, you’re sick of what you’ve got: start taking action and going after your dreams. It’s up to you. You are responsible for your life. No one else can do this for you.
If you really want to stay stuck—let overwhelm take control. When you’re looking for your passion, it’ll feel like you have an unlimited amount of options, but when you really prune them down and are honest with yourself, you’ll see that you’re left with just a handful.
It’s easy to look at everything you’re interested in and count them as options, but when you listen to your heart, you’ll see what is true and what is not.
We’ve been brought up to believe a lot of things that are false. Observe what beliefs are running your life and ask yourself if they are beneficial for where you want to go.
Fear
When you’re about to dive into something new, you will be afraid, and your mind will try to stop you. Anything unpleasant should be avoided. That’s what we automatically believe, right?
You will often sabotage yourself because of underlying fears. Many have told me that they cannot decide what their passion is. They want me to tell them what to do.
Realize that choosing a passion and running with it isn’t going to define your life, it is just the beginning. If you don’t take action, you won’t get anywhere. Focus on getting started instead of being perfect.
Missing Out
When you have a lot of options in front of you, the fear of missing out is always present. When I started, I knew my passions were self-improvement, natural health and financial freedom.
While I was afraid of missing out, I also knew that if I didn’t pick one, I’d miss the train. You can either pick one, or miss out on them all. It is up to you.
The feeling of missing out and wanting to do everything at once is an illusion. You can’t do them all, and even if you tried, you’d probably fail horribly. Again, this is just the beginning of your journey, so pick one passion and go.
Time
When I asked my readers what their biggest obstacles were when trying to find their passion, time frequently made the top three.
In the end, it’s not that you don’t have enough time; it’s that you fail to prioritize. If you’re watching TV, watching the news and doing stuff that doesn’t need to be done, you don’t really want to go after your passion.
If you really wanted to find your passion, you’d make time. So what if you work all day and have a family? There are people who’ve been in much worse situations and made it work. Why not you?
Excuses <--SUPER IMPORTANT!!
Excuses are irrelevant, because they are always manufactured by your mind. If you want to live the life you’ve always lived, go ahead and accept your excuses.
But if you’re ready for something else, you have to throw your excuses out the window. It doesn’t matter what kind of excuses you have, because they can always be overcome.
It’s easy for us to think that our problems are unique, but they aren’t. It all comes down to how badly you want this.
Being Good Enough
Ever since we were young we’ve been taught that we aren’t good enough. Teachers have highlighted our mistakes with red pens and parents have wished we would’ve been better.
It’s easy to assume that you don’t have any value, but you do. You are here for a purpose. You have something to offer and there are people out there waiting for you to reclaim your true power.
If you never want to find your passion, go ahead and accept your own excuses, avoid fear and seek comfort.
If, on the other hand, you’re sick of what you’ve got: start taking action and going after your dreams. It’s up to you. You are responsible for your life. No one else can do this for you.
June 21, 2010 at 11:36 AM
It is amazing the difference time makes - no matterhow short - when I first read this, I just read it and today when I read it again I absorbed it and made a couple of notes! Thank you for this inspiration - the list touched most of my 'fears' and it is nice to know it just isn't me.