Q&A- HOW LONG DO I GRIEVE?
2:55 PM Posted by MS.NOVA
*via email*My heart has been crushed. 7 months ago I lost someone really close to me and I'm not sure how to see past this pain. She was a really good person, I'm a piece of shit, so I don't know why I lived and she didn't. I feel guilty when I'm laughing or having fun. I try and escape in music, a lot of weed and people at school say that my whole vibe sucks now. I feel it. I snap at any and everyone, I don't want to try at anymoe, and I don't let anyone close to me. End of the day, its lonely and I just need to know how long I'ma feel like this for. My mom says I'm grieving but when does it get better?
How long do I grieve?
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November 4, 2010 at 11:48 AM
Nine months ago I too lost someone very close to me, a child.
I know the feeling of trying to escape, trying to find happiness in anything tangible, trying to appear 'normal' when everything feels like it's moving in slow motion.
People say your vibe is different? They're right. Death changes people. The closer you are to it, the more you are transformed. It's up to you to choose the path in which it changes you, and in the end, people can choose to either fuck with it...or not.
November 4, 2010 at 3:52 PM
@jazzy thanks so much for your honest and sincere response. i'm so sorry for your loss. the best advice i got when it came to death, especially when it was someone young, was to do all the things they were never able to. that is the best way to honor them.
i lost a dear friend who was 28. when i turned 30, rather then freak out about being older, i really celebrated with a full heart, knowing that was a milestone she never made.
i hope that helps both of you in this tough time.
nova